Everyone has regrets. According to one study, Eight out of ten reflect, ‘I had to be brave, so if I took the risk, life would have been better.’ and one in four longs for the love that passed. Studies show that people spend 110 hours a year just thinking ‘At that time I had to do this instead of doing that.’
What do people regret the most? The British daily ‘The Guardian’ has compiled five lists, introduced advice from experts on how to overcome them.
Saving = Many people regret their failure to save when they are young. Looking back on the past is unique to humans just like planning for the future. But you shouldn’t be held back by that way. Stop regret and just act. I can’t go back to my youth, but I can still save.
Love = It is exhausting to cling to past feelings. The important thing is the present. The past should not be allowed to dominate the present. Ask for advice from a friend who has succeeded in building a new relationship after overcoming a failure. It’s not bad to try a new meeting.
Traveling = When you are young, if you want to leave, you can just leave. It is different if you’re old. You have to maintain your house and raise your children. In some cases, someone have to take care of his or her parents who are already weakened. Why didn’t they just run around when they were freer? It is natural that regrets are coming over. To travel even now? Make sure you do two things. Which of the things you’re responsible for now can be taken off? If there is something to be held accountable for, what is the way to travel on it?
Friends = When you live, you feel that old friends are precious treasures. Don’t hesitate to keep in touch although you didn’t do it until now. You can start by asking after them. It’s also a good way to send a text message, “Shall we have a cup of tea?” with a picture taken while you and your friends were close.
Job = The lack of effort to find more paid work and more social standing work is also something which many people regret. Do focus on what you can do, not what you haven’t done. Instead of being depressed by past mistakes, you should try to learn there. That way, everyone will be a wiser person today than yesterday.